You asked for change—a fresh start, a new path, growth. Now, here it is, knocking on your door and rearranging your entire life.
Everything shifts when you decide you want more—to build something of your own, break free from the predictable, and evolve into the version of yourself you’ve only imagined.
The woman you’ve been for decades? She starts to feel… off.
A little lost.
Complacent.
Boring.
Stale.
And dare I say it—wilting.
That’s because growth demands disruption. You can’t step into the next version of yourself while clinging to the old one.
So, something takes root.
You start betting on yourself—even when it’s scary.
You say yes to yourself in ways that once felt selfish.
You trade autopilot for intention.
You shift your words, your energy, your expectations.
You fill your mind with new ideas, voices, and perspectives.
But here’s what no one tells you about growth:
It’s Not Just About Gaining—It’s About Losing, Too
You’ll lose your footing—again and again.
You’ll lose time to mistakes that sucker punch your confidence.
You’ll lose faith in trusting too quickly in the wrong people.
You’ll lose money to empty promises and shiny objects wrapped in big dreams.
And you’ll feel a little foolish.
“How did I not see that coming?”
“Am I really that gullible?”
“WTF is happening?”
There will be hours that stretch into days with no results.
You’ll launch something you poured your heart into… and no one will buy.
You’ll post something deeply personal… and get two likes (one from your mom).
You’ll pitch your idea, business, and dream… and hear nothing but crickets.
And meanwhile?
People will whisper.
“What is she doing?”
“She’s changed.”
“She’s not qualified.”
And the worst part?
When you win—when you land that opportunity, hit that milestone, or take that leap—some of the people you thought were in your corner? Gone.
Not Everyone Will Cheer for Your Growth
Some won’t understand the new you.
Some won’t like the new you.
Some will miss the you who didn’t talk mindset, elevating, and business over brunch.
Some will see your growth as a reminder of everything they’re not changing.
They won’t say these things out loud. But you’ll feel it.
And that silence?
Oof. Gut punch.
The silence of empty cheerleaders is the loneliest sound in the world.
It will make you second-guess everything.
And that little voice in your head—the one you thought you’d finally silenced—will creep back in.
It’ll have you tossing and turning, wondering if you’re enough, doing enough, or if this whole thing is even worth it.
This is you drifting—
Far from the shore you once knew.
And still unable to see what’s ahead.
The Moment You’ll Want to Quit—
Drifting in open water, you’ll have to decide:
Do I keep paddling?
Why am I even doing this?
Should I turn back?
Because let’s be real—the old you was easier.
The one who played it safe and kept things easy never had to explain herself. She didn’t deal with all the discomfort, doubt, and weight of stepping out of her comfort zone. She was predictable.
Drifting is the moment when most people quit.
But you?
You are not like most people.
You didn’t come this far to stay the same.
This Is The Test
You asked for change.
You asked for growth.
You asked for more.
You asked for the dream.
Well, here it is.
The universe is testing you.
Can you handle it? How bad do you want it?
When the people you thought would be there aren’t?
When you feel lost, untethered, unsure of which way to go?
When the loneliness feels like it might swallow you whole?
Yes, it stings. Damn, it hurts.
Keep Paddling
You will find your way,
When—
You stop chasing quick-fix solutions, seeking validation, and keeping scores of who shows up and who doesn’t.
And—
Instead, look inward.
Your desire.
Your vision.
Your why.
And then—
You let go.
You stop fighting the current.
You surrender to the discomfort.
And then—it happens.
You steady yourself.
Your path clears.
The shore appears.
And you’ll look back, smiling—
Every wave, every pull of the tide, brought you here.
To this moment.
Your becoming.
